Sunday, December 4, 2016

4 Tips on Avoiding Holiday Burnout

Gosh y'all, can you believe it's Christmas time already?  This year has flown by.  It seems like just yesterday the kids were going back to school!  Now we are literally in the throes of Christmas crazy.

I'm a total grinch this Christmas.  Ughhh....it's bad.  I just cannot for the life of me get into the Christmas spirit.  My house is decorated, the trees are up, Hallmark Christmas movies are on repeat, and at this moment I'm smelling a yummy combo of Young Living Christmas Spirit and Peppermint in my diffuser, and yet.....nothing.

In the past couple of years, I've become a Halloween person.  Like it's legit my favorite "holiday."  (Is that the right word?  Probably not.)  Nothing like curling up with a cup of coffee (or glass of Moscato) watching Michael Meyers scare the shit out of everybody that really gets me pumped for the season!  Haha.


I think this year has just been hard.  I'm not lying when I say that I'm ready for 2017.  A fresh start, better decisions for myself and my family, a new career, and making sure that my time is spent wisely.  This holiday season has me stressed.  To put it plainly, I just feel physically and mentally exhausted with life.  We've struggled this year. Struggled with paying our bills, making wrong job choices, not spending enough time doing things that fulfill our hearts.  I'm done with it!  I'm done with the external and internal struggle of it all.  I literally had an 'aha' moment in my kitchen yesterday.  As I sat staring at my planner, those little squares filled to the brim with Christmas dinners, birthday parties, after school activities, random functions, and still rapidly growing, I felt the familiar stress that I carry inside me start bubbling up.  Thoughts like, 'Okay, we'll go to this at this time, then leave this early to do that,' and 'I need to get this kid this gift and this kid this gift,' and the usual 'I'm so exhausted for this day and it hasn't even started' thought that I said out loud "nope, I'm done!"  I will not longer commit myself to doing things that I do not want/do not have the money to do.  I'm done with the stress of it all.  I can no longer do it to myself.  Most of these events primarily fall on the weekends, and with Adam working a second job to support us (bless that man), that leaves all of these 'things' up to me.  Nope!

I've decided to make a list of tools that I'm using to avoid holiday burnout this year.  Heck, I'm planning on using these tips from here on out.  Feel free to use them if they are going to help you, too.  I know that I'm not the only mama saying nope!



1) Saying yes to everything.

I'm a yes person.  I say yes to everything!  I say yes to things that I want to do, and I say yes to things I don't want to do.  I can't do that anymore.  I'm only one person.  I cannot be in two places at one time, and I refuse to keep stretching myself so thin that at the end of the day when I finally sit down at night I realize that I haven't done one thing that makes me happy.
Folks, we only have one life to live.  Our time is gold.  Let's put ourselves first sometimes.  Whether that means going for a pedi, curling up with a good book, enjoying dinner out with a friend, or going to bed early- choose YOU every once in awhile.

2) Staying on social media.

Social media.  It's a double-edged sword.  Sometimes it's great; most times it's just an annoying time-sucker (my opinion, guys).  For my well-being, I've decided to limit my time on Facebook and Instagram.  Nothing makes me feel more inadequate than looking at someone's perfect (staged) pics on Facebook as I lay scrolling with a mud mask on my face, (Well hello, Christmas zit!  You love to visit this time of year, don't you?!) in my fave stretchy pants, as I stuff my second Christmas Tree Cake into my mouth.  I've decided to limit myself to a half-hour each day, and avoid posting too much for my behalf.  Y'all know the drill: post, look for comments/likes, get said comments/likes but not from certain people that you KNOW have seen that shit, and then it's an all-out war and you're no longer friends on Facebook.  I wish I could say that I've never done what I just stated, but alas, I have!  I'm not particularly proud of myself, but this blog is about transparency and there ya go!

3) Spending too much money.

Christmas is kicking our tails this year.  When I say that we are living paycheck to paycheck, we.are.living.paycheck.to.paycheck.  It's been so hard.  I'm trying to focus on what's important, and the fact that I have my family, we are blessed with our health, and amazing people that surround us every day.  That's what's important.  When Adam went to a local position, we gained in a much more important aspect in that he's home with us every day (prayers answered), but we also lost a big chunk of his salary; apparently, if you travel with your job and you're not home most of the time, they compensate you well.  In hindsight, we probably should have held off Adam coming home until I was working and we were a little more stable, but I promise I wouldn't take back this year if I could.  Him being home with our family every day has been priceless.  Yes, this year's been hard, but no, we would not trade the time that he's been back for anything in the world.  I know that God is in control, and I know that this is just a season of our life.  I'm choosing thankfulness.
With all of that being said, Adam and I have made the decision to scale back on Christmas this year.  We have a set limit of spending we do for the kids, and we won't be giving to each other this year.  There will be plenty of Christmas' ahead of us where we can spend and give more, this Christmas, however, is not it.  A few gift-giving ideas I'll definitely be using this Christmas are: updated family photos, bake a cake or come cookies, a $10 Starbucks gift card for those coffee lovers, or even a $25 gift card to your parents for that endless love and support.  It's that time of year where everyone appreciates everything.  We have to remember that no gift is too small.

4) Not being in the moment.

Lord, this is one I struggle with.  With the constant noise: on TV, in our hands, in our ears, surrounding us, it is so hard to focus on being there.....in that moment.  Just last week when it rained for the first time in ages (no joke), I was cuddled up on the couch with my kids, and after I eventually put my phone down I looked over to look at their perfect little profiles.  Different but each so beautiful.  I was moved to tears.  One, because I was reminded of God's constant blessing in my life by giving me these two blessings, and two, because I couldn't remember the last time I stared, you know, really studied their perfect little faces.
The constant noise takes time away from everything, not just the important things.  The time I've spent mindlessly thumbing through my Facebook feed, or looking at makeup tutorials on YouTube is time that I should have spent investing in the moment: whether that moment involved playing dolls with Harper, building Legos with Aaron, having a meaningful conversation with my husband, or reading a good book.  During this busy holiday season, I'm going to choose to focus on being in the moment.  Seeing things myself and not behind a phone or an iPad.  Being there.  And living to tell about it.


I hope these tips help you in avoiding holiday burnout.  And I wish all of you, my loyal readers, a happy holiday season!
 

xoxo,
LL


Friday, July 29, 2016

Hey, hey!

Is it bad that it's a beautiful summer day, and both Harper and I are on the couch- technology in laps.  Me- laptop; Harper- iPad.  #momfail  I just cannot deal with this heat today.  In order to avoid melting, we shopped this morning, i.e.: spent money that I shouldn't spend.  Oh well.  There's always tomorrow.  And when I say tomorrow, I mean tomorrow morning.  There's just no way I can handle temps that feel like 100 degrees outside when I woke up early enough to do a decent job on my makeup, y'all!

So, hiiiii!  I haven't blogged since January.  I have started a few posts, but ended up deleting or not posting because they were so boring.  The past 7-8 months have literally been a blur.  Between family, friends, work, school, etc. 2016 has been BUSY!  Now that summer's almost over, and school is starting back for both of my kids, I'm hoping for a little more time to hop on here and jot down a few thoughts more often.  I'd love to say that I'll blog every day, every other day, twice a week, or hell, even once a week, but I've made that promise before and it didn't happen.  I do miss blogging...actually, I miss it a lot.  Last weekend, a friend of mine encouraged me to start it up again, so here goes!

  • So, my newest obsession is Stranger Things on Netflix.  If we're Facebook friends, you know my thoughts: it's amazing.  It's only 8 episodes and I finished it in less than 3 days.  I think I'm having withdrawals from it like I did with Breaking Bad.  Hoping to avoid the major funk that happened once BB was over.  I'm thinking I'm safe since this was the first season of Stranger Things, and obvi, since Netflix is super smart they're going to renew that bad boy for a second season.  
  • I'm on the hunt for a great pair of skinny jeans.  I need to know where y'all are buying your skinnies!  I bought a pair off of Old Navy's website (I know, sexy) last week, and can I just say.....they were heinous on me.  Wth??!  I need jeans that are going to be tight on my legs the only skinny thing on my body, I assure you and snug but comfortable everywhere else.  Give me all the goods, people!
  • Here's my take on the Kim K/T Swizzle drama: Tay should have never said she was cool with that horrible Kanye song.  If I were her publicist, I would have highly encouraged her to say HELL NO.  (I love to be "the publicist" in my head, btw.  I know for a fact if I had been Britney's publicist back in 2007 the fateful head shave incident would not have occurred, she would not have rode around sans panties with Paris H, and she would not have performed that horrible, I'm hiding my face looking through my fingers performance of Gimme More at the MTV VMA's.)  All of that being said, saying that it "was cool and she was flattered" was not something that ego-maniac AKA: Kanye, needed to hear.  And btw, I'm so sick of hearing about these people.  I say that as KUWTK plays in the background.....
  • Today is National Lipstick Day!!  My favorite!  Rock that red, pink, or even purple lip!

That's all I got!  Hope y'all have a great weekend!

~LL

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

Whole 3

It's 2016!  Happy New Year!  I hope everyone had a great Christmas!  Ours went by entirely too fast. One minute we were in the throes of Christmas Eve craziness, and the next we were taking down our Christmas tree and all of our decorations.  I seriously don't know where Christmas went this year!  Sure, I had another nasty sinus infection sneak up on Christmas Eve eve, so I definitely wasn't feeling my best.  I have to admit, I cried when Adam took down our tree; I just wasn't ready for it to be over.  We actually took it down immediately after Christmas (like next day) because it just made me sad to look at it when it was over.  I just don't think I got into the Christmas spirit this year.  December was so stressful: money issues, the insane amount of money we spent on Christmas presents (more on that later), work, school, etc.  After an already long night at my in-laws home on Christmas Eve, we arrived back at our house at 10:30 for my poor hubby to stay up until 2:30 AM putting together Christmas toys.  We were exhausted.  I helped as best as I could, and then passed out face first into my pillow around 12:30 AM.

Next year will be different.  I will not spend an arm and a leg on Christmas presents.  I will not be in a mad dash and stay under constant stress, I will take care of myself so I'm not sick and over it by Christmas Eve, and most of all, I will reflect on what Christmas really means.  Amen!

With ALL of that being said, I am very thankful for the fabulous presents I received!  Adam gave me the fiercest pair of Ray Ban Aviators that I'm completely obsessed with.  My mom, knowing my makeup obsession all to well, gave me a Sephora Gift Card.  I was able to make this purchase, and oh baby, it's SO WORTH IT!

The Tarte Tartelette palette
I'm in love with this palette.  This is not a great pic (ignore the forehead bump please), but I just had to document how gorgeous the colors are.  They're so pigmented and stay on ALL DAY.  I honestly like this palette better than any of the Naked palettes.  Go and buy now!  It's totally worth the $50!


In other news, I've started a Whole 30.  Yes, I'm crazy.  I'm on day 3, and literally taking this diet lifestyle change minute by minute.  If you're not completely in the know, basically this diet is no sugar, no grains, no dairy, no alcohol; only meat, fruit, and vegetables.  Sooo......super hard.  I never realized what a sugar addict I am until the past few days.  I've missed coffee creamer, Coke Zero, Sweet Tea, pop tarts, and WINE more than I ever thought I could. It's hard, man.  Here's a glimpse of what my past few days have looked like food-wise:


Juice is allowed on the Whole 30 and after trying this Naked Juice today, I'm sold.  Such a nice change from my water and La Croix.  My past 3 breakfasts have consisted of a fried or scrambled egg with veggies, and whatever leftover protein I have from the night before.  Lunch has been everything from zoodles, Aidell's chicken sausage and carrot sticks with Wholly guacamole, to tuna salad made with Primal Palate mayo.  My first Whole 30 dinner was Sunday night; we had chicken sausage, roasted squash, and pasta (for Adam and the kids), last night we had Roasted Chicken Thighs, sauteed broccoli slaw (amazing), and rice (again, for Adam and the kids).  Tonight we're having leftovers.  I have to admit, I'm not crazy about all the cooking that goes into it.  I'm a big fan of convenience foods, though I know they're not healthy at all.  I will say, everything I've cooked so far has been delicious.  Definitely no shortage on flavor!  And I do like the fact that I'm getting new ideas for meals, particularly breakfast and lunch; no pop tarts and turkey sandwiches here!  At least for the time being anyway......wish me luck!!  Day 3- let's do this!

~LL

Sunday, November 22, 2015

So, that happened.

I felt the need to come on my blog and confess that I just inhaled a number one combo from Krystal.  I mean, I pretty much killed it.  I was even having heartburn while I was eating it and did not even care.  That's cray.  I'm blaming it on the goose.  Grey Goose, for clarification.  My mom and I went to see Mockingjay last night (by the way, it was really good) and afterwards stopped by a local restaurant and shared a steak while treating ourselves to a cosmo.  And let me just say- they treated us right.  So right that I came home and had the brilliant idea to pour a glass of wine the size of my head and drink it all.  So smart.  Such a lightweight.

As well all know, when Katniss Everdeen AKA Jennifer Lawrence is feeling super Sasha Fierce she rocks a smokey eye like nobody's business.  After seeing her makeup last night I had to copycat.



Thoughts?  I did it in black and white so y'all couldn't see the blemish on my chin.  I'm obsessed with a smokey eye.  It's my favorite makeup trend next to a great lipstick.  Probably too much for a Sunday, but I'm feeling fancy today!

Can we talk about the hilarious SNL sketch that revolves around Adele's "Hello?"  Oh my gosh, I laughed so hard.  And seriously, Matthew McConaughy wearing that wig and fur coat.  LOL!  


That's it for Sunday, guys!  About to take my little guy outside to soak in some sunshine on this gorgeous day.  Enjoy yours!

~LL

Saturday, November 21, 2015

Don't worry, be HAPPY!

Where do I even start?  It's been almost a year since I updated LL!  That's crazy.  Like I said in my previous post, I hopped on over to Wordpress for a minute to try it on, but I couldn't help but miss my good ole blogger blog.  So much easier, simple, comfortable- what I'm needing A LOT of in my life right now.  So I'm back.

To catch up, I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old that keep me on my toes every day.  My hubby finally got a job where he is home with us every day, and I am staying home currently with my two year old.  I've been on the job hunt for the past few months to no avail.  I have probably applied to 50 different jobs, had three interviews, all to hear, "there's a better candidate for this position."  Grrr.......getting a job in this market is tough!  I'm just trying to remain optimistic that the right job will be revealed to me soon.  Rather sooner than later.  We'll see.....

I woke up extra early this morning craving the Chick.  And when I say Chick, I mean Chick-fil-A, whoop whoop!  It's a Georgian's fav place to eat, mark.my.words.  Of course, I've officially gone crazy and decided that my body no longer needs sugar, so I'm "attempting" a low-carb, gluten-free, paleo, atkins, whatever you call it diet.  My favorite thing to eat at the Chick is a chicken breakfast burrito; trust.  It will change your life.  While speeding home to devour this tortilla-less burrito (because I'm good, y'all) I hear on the radio a letter from a survivor of the theater massacre in Paris just last weekend.  Wow.  Listening to this person describe the horrific violence that occurred right in front of her broke me.  Watching innocent people and loved ones die in front of her, as she lay motionless so these monsters wouldn't know she was alive.  Can you imagine??  Perspective.  Perspective as I feel sorry for myself because I can't eat a freakin' tortilla.  Perspective because I can't find a job.  Perspective because I definitely do not appreciate all the blessings bestowed on me every day.  I was sick about this event all weekend.  Monday I googled "the safest place to live in the world" because I'm scared to death.  (Btw, Canada sounds great.)  Instead of praying I worried incessantly.  Then my sister sent me this.


Wow.  Perspective.

God bless the people of Paris.  God bless the people of Lebanon that lost many just the day before in another terrorist attack.  God bless us all.

We will not let this evil take away our happiness.  We have God.  We also have flowers.

Have a wonderful day, friends!



~LL

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Bear with me...

Hello long lost bloggy friends!

It's been a minute since I updated this blog!  I moved over to Wordpress to try it for a bit (no worries if you're an avid (haha) LL reader.....you didn't miss much)!  I decided to head back to the old homestead because that's what I know the best.  Wordpress is just too fancy for this girl!  Anyway, I'm giving LL a facelift for the 100th time and hopefully last one for awhile.  I haven't truly wrote in so long, and with so much going on in our world right now it's time to get back at it.

With all of that being said, I've missed LL and I look forward to getting back in the swing of things.  I hope to update tomorrow if not later today!

Talk soon!

~LL

Saturday, November 29, 2014

I'm still here!

Okay, so I've officially gotten really slack on the blogosphere.  The last time I posted was in early October.  I've been going MIA on the blog a lot lately.  I can't do this anymore, especially when I love it so much!  Sooo....

Speaking of MIA, I got off of Facebook over a week ago.  I have to admit that I do not miss the Book of Face.  At all.  I was so tired of letting that website define my mood; I'd log in having a good day, and log out either annoyed, pissed off, hurt, or a little of everything.  Now I do realize that I am in charge of my own feelings and that my being hurt, pissed off, annoyed, etc.; those were my own issues.  But I was over it.  So I deactivated.  And it's been so freeing!  I know I've only been "gone" for a little while, but just this past week without it I have been so much more present in our life.  We've played more games, I've cooked more, we've read more, heck, I've even watched television without scrolling Facebook during commercials and then missing the entire movie/TV show because I got so wrapped up in social media.  I would be lying if I said that I missed it.

On the other hand, the one downside about "unplugging" is the fact that I can't promote my Younique business on my Facebook group page.  Bummer.  But, please know that I am still selling your 3D Fiber lashes and other amazing makeup and skin products via my Younique website:

www.youniqueproducts.com/HayleyMosely

We're now running this amazing Black Friday special through December 1st that would be a perfect Christmas present for you or your loved one!

This awesome set includes:
  • 1 Illuminate Facial Cleanser (Clean or Clear — choose one)
  • 1 Moodstruck Minerals Pigment Powder (choose one of 32 colors)
  • 1 Moodstruck 3D Fiber Lashes
  • 1 Eye Brush Set (3-piece) 
I will probably be doing most of my marketing via my blog and Instagram from now on, so please check back for more specials and giveaways.



I'm hoping that with some of these minor changes I've made that I will be blogging more.  I hate to promise that I will, and not show up again in six months.  I'm always asking God, "What do you want me to do with my life?  Where do you want me to go?"  Not that I think I'm a great writer or anything, but I do feel like He has blessed me with the joy of writing, and I feel like as long as I enjoy doing it then that's one of His gifts.

I hope all of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving with family and friends!  What a year 2014 has been!  Can't believe it's almost 2015.  I'm ready.  In the meantime, I'm incredibly thankful for all of the blessings this past year. 

xo,
LL